Saturday, August 27, 2016

SJP-- Love In Your Dynamic 8-27-2016

http://prompts.submissiveguide.com/314


Hello my Little Hellions!

Submissive journal prompt time!!!

Today's prompt is:
"Is love first or second in your dynamic?'

So with the Batdaddy and myself, I believe that love comes first. We haven't been in our dynamic for the longest period of time (shortly before starting this blog actually). I am pet and He is Owner. But this is not the only way we are. We are boyfriend and girlfriend. We have been together for almost eight years now (it will be eight years, ironically, on February 14th, valentine's day which is probably our least favorite holiday, of next year) and it has been absolutely wonderful.

Lately, there have been few problems. But this is normal for most relationships anyway. Mostly it has been my fault. I have not been home and I have working on a lot of projects other than our relationship. I have neglected some duties that He finds are important to him. I am currently doing my best to remedy this situation. So far so good.

We took the test over the five love languages and found out that we are pretty damn different in our ways of expressing our love for each other. For example, His idea of how love works is acts of service and gifts. His lowest score was physical touch. My love language is physical touch (not sexul in my case) and my lowest score was in acts of service and gifts. So we kind of clash in that aspect. It's something that we are working on. I am trying to improve how I serve Him. He is letting me hug Him and make some attempt at cuddling him.

If you would like to take the test over the love languages, follow the lovely link below!:
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/

It's very interesting to see how you both (or all of you, in a poly relationship) want to express yourselves to each other.


That's all for today I think.

Love you guys,
-Harvest Hellion

Tuesday, August 23, 2016

TMI Tuesday- 8-23-2016

1. Do you want a divorce or to leave your present romantic relationship?
No. I'm perfectly fine in my relationship. We have been having a lot of fights lately, but we are doing well. I know we're going to be okay. It's mostly me being insecure because I leave so much and him being upset because I'm always gone.

 
2. Do you think your relationship needs couples therapy?
 No. Well, sometimes I think that. But who doesn't? It's not like everyone has the most perfect relationship in the world.
 
3. If your relationship needs fine-tuning, what would you do to tweak it?
 I would tweak the fact that I would change is that we both had more agreeable ways to love each other. We took the love languages quiz and we have completely opposite languages. He likes service and gifts and doesn't like physical touch as much; I like physical touch and don't like service or gifts as much.
 
4. Is your relationship over or are you just in a bad phase? How long has the bad phase lasted so far?
 Not at all. Just a difficult patch.
 
5. What kind of relationship do you envision will make you happy?
This one. Just probably when we both get more time.
 
6. Are you seeing someone new?
 No?

Bonus: What major regret do you have so far in your life? Is it too late to change it?

There are people in my life that I'm currently questioning as a regret. There is one thing that I regret at the moment but at the same point in time I am the person that believes things that need to happen will happen and have to happen.

Monday, August 15, 2016

TMI Tuesday- 8/15/2016

1. Where is the most beautiful place on earth and why?
Most old cemeteries. There is beauty in death.

2. How old is the most expired item in your fridge?
 A couple days I think. It's milk.

3. What’s under your bed?
The floor! Ha ha. BatDaddy and I have a wonderful king sized bed that was too big for our original bed setup so we have it on the floor at the moment, until we can get it a proper setup. We're thinking we'll make tombstone and coffin headboard stuff.

4. What is in your pocket?
 I'm sitting around in my underwear. I'm pretty sure I don't have pockets in my underwear. Though it would be super cool if I could have pockets in my underwear. That would be super handy.

5. Which famous person would you like to be best-friends with? Why?
Probably Edgar Allen Poe. I know he's dead, but I bet he was interesting to talk to. His writing is amazing and I feel like I could connect with him on some level. We could be co-authors of a horror blog. LOL.

6. There is now a line of lacy lingerie for men. Would you wear it or like to see your man in it? See here and here 
Honestly, I only want him to wear things that he is comfortable in. If he is comfortable in that and confident, then I would be happy if he did. I do have a fantasy of seeing him in a dress someday. The way the dress looks is different every time (That's what you get when you date someone who likes drag queens and designing clothes and costumes) so it's always different and each time he does lip syncs to my favorite songs. Is that too weird? I mean, I am genderfluid and pansexual, but I feel like I relate to people who are like me more. I suppose that's normal, but I'm going about it in an alternative manner.
 

Bonus: Think The Olympics. Men’s gymnastic uniforms–sexy or goofy? Discuss!
I have honestly not really been watching the Olympics. I've honestly only seen a couple of the different things that have been going on. I watched some of the men's volleyball (was it men's?) and that was kind of cool. I really liked the Try Guy's Olympic video so much better though. (Which you can find HERE!!)
I'm not really big on sports. I am wondering if they have or are doing fencing. That is a sport that I can get behind, being the one sport that I actually participated in. I don't usually watch the Olympics though. I do enjoy the opening ceremonies.

Friday, August 12, 2016

TMI Tuesday- 08/09/2016

The theme is "Let's Get Goofy!!!!"

1. Whasssssuuuupppppp?
WHAT UP BITCHEEEEZ.

2. Where’s Waldo?
He was with Prince Albert in a can. They are lovers.

3. The best part of waking up is?
A bag of dicks. (What? You said goofy!)

4. Got Milk?
Yes actually. Chocolate to be specific.

5. Have you driven a Ford lately?
Bitch I can't drive.

6. What would you do for a Klondike bar?
Go to a store and buy one, obvi.

7. Pardon me, do you have any Grey Poupon?
"I like my rats with a little grey poop on."

8. Do you Yahoo?
Only in the bedroom. *ba dum tiss*

Bonus:  Is a picture worth a thousand words? Elaborate.

Do I have to write it in a thousand words?

Thursday, August 4, 2016

Kinky RSS!

Hello, my Little Hellions! I added an rss subscription option in the sidebar! Let me know if it's working. I hope you enjoy it. I'm going over some post ideas and will hopefully have more great content for you soon! Love you guys, -harvest hellion Resident Support Kitten

Wednesday, August 3, 2016

My Giveaway For 10k! Finally!

Hey there my little hellions!

I have a raffle starting up in a few hours and that will run until about the eleventh of this month. So I will be sending out a super cool prize for the lucky winner.

The prize is a 4.2 oz bottle of Pink Lemonade Sliquid lube. It's vegan friendly, too!!

I hope you guys like it. I can't wait to see who the happy winner is.

Lots of love,
-harvest hellion
Resident Support Kitten


Monday, August 1, 2016

TMI Tuesday-- 8/02/2016


1. Your thoughts–is oral sex cheating on your partner?
I think that oral is cheating. It's a sexual act, therefore it is cheating.

2. What is cheating to you?
Cheating (to me) is when your partner(s) find other people to give their attention to.

3. Does your partner know you masturbate? What do they think about that?
I'm not sure. I've never asked him. I'm very private about it. He's never really said anything to me about it or anything so I haven't really brought it up.

4. Think about the best sex you’ve ever had. Why do you consider it the best, what makes it so?
The best sex I've ever had is the first time BatDaddy and I had sex because I got to be in costume and I like to remember that day forever.

5. When you have nightmares, do you call out someone’s name?
No. Usually I just sit up or clutch something or BatDaddy if he is close by.

6. When you’re having an orgasm, do you scream a name?
Nope. I hardly make any noise at all. Is that weird?

Bonus: Which best fits your usual reason for masturbating:
a. Boredom
b. Stress relief
c. Saw someone/something sexy and you need to act out a sexual fantasy
d. It’s just what I do

It's probably just B. I have a lot of sexual issues, so it's frustrating to me.

Monday, July 25, 2016

TMI Tuesday---- 07/26/2016

1. What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever done?
Getting the courage to go on stage. And I have done it several times since then!

2. What did you do growing up that got you into trouble?
Reading and playing online past bedtime (I was such a problem child! lol)

3. When was the last time you had an amazing meal? What was it? Why was it amazing for you?
Oh, I tend to think each meal is amazing in it's own way. Just imagine what those brave souls who first said "Gee, that creature looks interesting. Let's kill it, drown it in spices and whatnot, and put it in our mouths" had to go through to give us what we have today.

4. What’s the best/worst gift you’ve ever given/received?
The best gift I've received is the gift of friendship (Ha. Right?).

5. What do you miss most about being a kid?
Oh goddess. Not paying bills. Totally.

Bonus: What is something you learned in the last week?
I learned about different types of snakes. And that was just in the last hour! I always have so much fun learning new things.

Friday, July 22, 2016

Happy Birthday Harvest 2016

Happy Birthday to me.

Just wanted to revel in that glow.

Thank you my Little Hellions for being with me another year. I hope this one is amazing.

Lots of love,
-Harvest Hellion

Monday, July 18, 2016

TMI Tuesday-- 07/19/2016

Hello my Little Hellions~!! It's TMI Tuesday time again! Here's some stuff to enjoy!!

1. Hi there. Tell us about your job and what you do?
I work at a fabrics and crafts store. I love it so much. I also volunteer with the local community as much as I can, garnering me the self-titled title of "Resident Support Kitten" I love all of these things and I try to stay as upbeat as possible. The other day I actually had an oops and was rude to a customer on accident. I had (still have as of this writing) a migraine/headache since 7-8-2016 so I was having a hard time getting my attitude in check. I'm so sorry to that person. I would hate to have been them. I NEVER get rude. I get snarky, but never rude.
 
2. What piece of advice would you give to a co-worker?
If I had to give advice, I would say for them to always keep a positive outlook (especially at work) and give at least one compliment to each customer. Not only does this brighten their day, it gives you a feeling of fulfillment as well. (LOVE LOVE LOVE)
 
3. What 2 pieces of advice would you give to a new blogger?
To a new blogger, I would tell them that they should invest time in all forms of social media and to connect with your readers. People come to our blogs for creative and interesting views. Share what you can and live your truth.
 
4. What 1 piece of advice would you give to a veteran blogger–someone blogging for more than 3 years?
Oh, my. I don't think I would give them advice. Maybe I would tell them to stick with it. It's worth it. Bloggers offer a unique service with all sorts of interesting things. We are the Bards of the Internet RPG (lol, sorry I'm a total nerd). Keep it up and spread the love. Why would anyone want to read a blog about things people hate??
 
5. What do you hope visitors to your blog see, take away, feel or learn?
I want my visitors to come away with a laugh, a smile, and maybe some interesting information. I want them to spread the love and to possibly have a safer time. I'm still deciding if I think SSC (Safe, Sane, Consensual) or RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) is more for me. But I think my readers need to form their own opinions.
 
6. Have you ever had something happen to you that you thought was bad but it turned out to be for the best?
I was raped. Strangely it turned out okay. I hate going into it. Because of my rape, I now have the best boyfriend/Owner in the world. He is my rock, my world, and my life. I live to serve him and please him as much as I physically can.
 
Bonus: What was the last experience that made you a stronger person?
I'm not sure. I don't see myself as a very strong person. I kind of fake being strong when I have to and then I go off somewhere and cry. Although, I think most of the time I cry anyway. I cry a LOT. I'm a very emotional person. I suppose I'm somewhat of an empath but I don't really see myself that way. I just see myself as someone who cares (probably too much).

Thursday, July 14, 2016

SJP-- A Hard Day's Work

Hello my Little Hellions!! It's time for another prompt!!!

http://prompts.submissiveguide.com/66

The prompt is as follows: "What is a “hard day’s work” for you?"

 By Pizarros (Own work) [CC BY-SA 3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons


HA. This is interesting. If you saw my work and volunteering schedule you would see that I am busy probably six out of seven days of the week, with the seventh being the day I spend with BatDaddy running all sorts of errands. So I guess you could say that every day is a busy one.

For me, I tend to sleep a lot (my body doesn't recover as fast as other people's bodies for the most part). On the days I do not sleep I tend to spend a lot of time either reading or writing. My depression tends to keep me from doing much.

For example, Friday mornings I go to the one doctor. Noon I have lunch. Then I go to either a doctor or a physical therapist. After that, I usually hang with a friend and get dinner afterwards. Then we travel to her house that's about an hour away. The Thursday before I have my bags packed becuase on Fridays I stay the night so we can go to classes on Saturdays. If I can fit some time in, I work on my reading or writing in between everything, whilst going through music the entire day to find things I like or that I can get inspiration from (music is my drug! LOL).

So I would say that that is a relatively busy day for me. It doesn't always feel like hard work but there are days when it just kind of collapses on top of me and messes with me.

Lots of love,
-Harvest Hellion

I'm Not a Doctor, Nor Do I Play One on TV

Hi my Little Hellions.

So I wanted to talk about something important. I want to talk about medical sheets. Something like a pill minder even. (Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, nor do I play one on tv. If you have health issues of any sort, please see an actual doctor. I implore you.)

When an s-type and a D-type get together (or two switches or even two vanillas or even more if you're poly) there will be negotiations. Something that I find is often overlooked is medical history.

Does your Top know you are diabetic? Does your s-type know you get dizzy spells? Have you ever had any surgeries?

These are common questions that need to be addressed somehow, and the answer to how to do it is very simple: A brief medical history sheet.

A good medical history sheet will have what pills you take with what milligram and how often. Definitely add what sort of health issue you have briefly (for example, if you have anxiety in a certain situation like I do, add "Anxiety-Large Crowds"). It will include your surgeries as well. And for some bonus points you should add what doctors you see or where you typically go for treatment.

You can keep this in your purse or wallet on a sheet of paper. I personally use the "Health" app on my iPhone 6 (I'm an iSheep, lol). There are many different types of apps you can get on your phone to record various things on there that pertain to your health status and whatnot. Do some research on the apps so they will help out more to the particular way you want to have things set up.

Here is a cool website that reviews health apps and what they do:

http://www.imedicalapps.com/#

It's a super helpful app site.

You should also have a pill minder app if you are particularly forgetful. You might already have a physical pill minder, but you should use a pill minder app to remember to go to even look at your pills, just in case. You can never be too prepared. I actually have my iPhone set up to remind me to take things in the morning and at night on one of my google calendars. You can even set it to an alarm. This is particularly important if you have to take birth control pills, because they have a very strict regimen.

So when you get together, give the other person(s) the heads up. It might be difficult to do in a poly relationship becuase you will have multiple people doing things and you'll have to keep up with all of them. You may not want to GIVE the other people or person your medical history. This is something you should keep on your person. Just make sure the other person(s) know where it is (if you hav eit printed or on your phone, etc).

Just some fun tips about medical safety from me. (Please remember that I am not a doctor, and should not be a replacement for one.)

 By Pöllö (Own work) [CC BY 3.0 (http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/3.0)], via Wikimedia Commons


Lots of love,
-Harvest Hellion

Dominant Traits

Hello my Little Hellions. Here's a fun prompt for the day!:

http://prompts.submissiveguide.com/684

The prompt??: "What is the one quality you think most Dominants possess?"

This could be fun. I will tell you the thing I immediately thought of.

The Look.

I'm going to say most D-types are able to do this (switches in D-type mode, as well).

It's that look that you get when you know you are crossing a line or if you are fucking up. It may even be something that tells you that you are about to get something and you may not be ready for it (so stay on your toes).

BatDaddy has a Look he gives me when I say or do something stupid. It stems from his Old School Goth roots. That snarky and sarcastic look that just makes me go "Oh fuck." Sometimes I know what I did. You can tell, usually. It's that Look that makes you reign yourself back in.

I've even gotten a variety of Looks from other D-types (besides BatDaddy). I know everyone is capable of giving that Look, but D-types just do it so much better.

Not all Looks are of an angry sort. There is also another Look. That'd be the bedroom eyes. I don't get this one very often (we have our reasons). That's a Look that makes you shudder and shiver in all the best of ways. You know what's coming with this Look. It's not a strictly D-type Look. A s-type can totally do this look, but if you're not careful it could be (possibly) considered Topping from the bottom. If you have an opinion on this thought, feel free to leave a comment. I'd love to hear it.

Another thing that I feel like most D-types seem to possess is an almost leader-like quality. If you don't know how to lead, you probably need to learn. I'm not a D-type (but I do switch on occasion) but I know that if I am put into the proper situation (a D-type situation that is) I know exactly what I want and how to make decisions for my s-types.

This type of command is something beautiful to behold. If you ever get a chance to really see a proper (I'm not saying "true D-type" becuase that seems a bit... judgey. I suppose proper is judgey, too, a bit. But it's easier than saying any "one twue way") D-type in action, take notes. This person will know what they are doing and what they want done. I suppose you could say that they possess "Decisiveness."

We s-types have our own decisiveness. But most of us would rather have someone to give us tips or rule over us because we've had so much of it in another aspect of life. We want to give up our control. Let our D-types be our brain for a while. They'll let us know what we are eating, what hygeine or makeup they prefer, our clothing, or anything really. Not all D-types are that strict, but you get the idea. BatDaddy actually prefers for me to wear makeup when I leave the house. He likes the way I do it and He approves. There have been a couple of times when He looks at my outfits and puts the whoa to it. I have a tendency to wear rather crazy outfits or clash on purpose.

But, I digress. There are many things that most D-types have in common with each other. You just really have to look at them in a certain way.

I suppose that's all for that.

Tell us what you think about it!!! I'd love to hear some D-types views on what other D-types are like if that's possible. S-types, I know you're there. I'd love to see your comments.

Lots of love,
-Harvest Hellion

Monday, July 11, 2016

TMI Tuesday-- 7/12/2016

1. Have you ever orgasmed just by hearing sexy-dirty talk?
No.
 
2. Have you ever tried scissoring?
Nope.

3. Have you ever practiced BDSM on yourself (bondage, nipple clamps, hot wax, etc.)?
Yep. Mostly bondage for fun and some clamps.

4. Have you ever licked or sucked on someone else’s feet or toes? Was it a turn-on for you or were you doing it to please them?
  No, but I occasionally do foot rubs for people. It's not a turn on but it's a service and I love serving.

5. Would you say that you have a sexual fetish? What is it?
I suppose I do. I really love being tied up. Some people have referred to me as Rope Kitten instead of Rope Bunny.

 6. What is the best way for you to orgasm?
I use vibrators. It's the only way I can feel any pressure in my crotchular area because of the nerve pain I have.


Bonus: Do you have a crush on a fellow blogger? Who?
Nope. I don't always read a lot of other bloggers, even. But I do enjoy other blog posts and I read from blogs that I have subscribed to. I dunno I guess the answer is no.

Monday, July 4, 2016

Happy 4th

Happy Independence Day to all my U.S. readers!

Hope you have a lovely time and enjoyed the shows.

wikimedia commons

Sunday, July 3, 2016

TMI Tuesdays 6-28-16

Last weeks TMI Tuesdays

  1. When sizing up (assessing) your romantic relationship, is there a couple that you envy? Why? (Can be a couple you know or famous/celebrity couple)

No I don't think there is a couple that I envy. I personally love the relationship that my Owner and I have so I don't see others that way.
 
2. Thinking of your current relationship, which stage are you in? a. Infatuation stage – Intense attraction and an uncontrollable urge to be with each other, strong sexual attraction. b. Understanding stage – You both start getting to know each other better, and everything about your partner interests and fascinates you. c. Moulding stage – You each know what you want in a partner and you start moulding each other to change in effort to create a stronger, lasting relationship. d. If you have made it this far you are in the advanced stages of a relationship, which one best represents the current status of your relationship:
1) Stage of doubt – This is not what you want in a partner, and you have thoughts of ending the relationship.
2) Happy stage – You’ve worked out most of the kinks in your relationship, you know each others flaws and can deal with them. You are comfortable and enjoying the relationship in what you believe will be a long-lasting one.

I would have to say that we are in the Happy stage of the relationship.  We are past moulding and whatnot so it's perfect. We're so great, in my mind. Sure, we have disagreements so there is always room for some form of improvement.


3. If you are not currently in a romantic relationship, at which stage did your last relationship end? (see stages above).

I'm in a romantic relationship so this does not apply.

 

4. Do you think you are too good for your current partner? Why do you feel this way?

HA! No. Not at all. If anything I feel like I need to improve to make the relationship better.

 
5. Write a 25-word love note to your current significant other or to a person with whom you are infatuated .

(I'm not sure I can write 25 words exactly, but)
Dear Batdaddy. I love you with all my heart. I want to be the best that I can be so that I will never let you down. I just want to help you and love you. I hope we are together forever. (Even if that drives you insane. Or me. But probably you. lol)
 
Bonus: Have you ever been obsessively “in love” with someone and perhaps borderline clingy? How did you get over your obsession?

Actually, I'm the clingy one. I try not to be. It's very difficult. I just want to do stuff so that Batdaddy can be proud of me and will love being in love with me, as I am in love with him.

Posting Schedule Ideas

Hi there all.

 It's Sunday, so I have started trying to get back on my schedule. I will be posting on Sundays about various projects and whatnot going on in the community and other things that I find to be important, and on Tuesdays I will continue my posts from the TMI Tuesday projects that are going on. Other than that I will be having random bonus posts throughout the week. There will be a little raffle type thing coming up very soon in honour of my 10k views.

I have not been home so I have been having trouble getting online where I am at.

I have purchased a 4.2oz bottle of Pink Lemonade Sliquid to raffle off. There will be a couple of different ways to earn tickets. I can't wait to see who wins! This is going to be great.

I also will be starting an email list for ease of reading. That way all of my readers can come by my posts through the email list if they so choose. I really like having views on my page, but I like having dedicated readers even more. It's going to be great.

I have a few ideas for things to come. I can't wait to share them with you all.


Thanks guys.
-harvest hellion

Monday, June 27, 2016

Thanks For 10k Views!!

THANK YOU ALL FOR 10K!!!!


I am so excited to say that you lovely readers have given me 10k hits on my blog. I finally got a new power cord for my computer so I will be back on more now. I had lost it and didn't know where it went so I had to order one when I got the cash for it
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I have been helping out my local community a lot lately. I cannot wait to tell you all about it but there are things I can't talk about just yet so I will tell you guys when I get things sorted out. Just know that it is going to be great.

I thought maybe I would do something since I hit 10k views. I'm not sure what I want to do yet with that as well. I just needed to make sure you all knew that I have been paying attention and am very thankful that you are all reading!

I think I'll do a raffle!!! I just need to get something cool to raffle off (lol)!!! Expect that in a week or two.
So yeah, thank you all. You are all blessings to me. Keep on reading.

Lots of love,
-Harvest Hellion

Friday, May 27, 2016

Harvest Presents: Prostate Cancer

Hey guys. I have something important to talk to you about today!

Prostate Cancer!

Now, I know you guys know I am a genderfluid who was assigned female at birth, so this is kind of a new topic for me to checck out. I'm all for keeping everyone healthy.

I also would like to post a disclaimer that I am not a doctor and I cannot give you 100% correct information.

This is from my personal research and merely suggestions as to what I would do if I were in your shoes. You do not have to do this. I am not requiring you to do so. Like I said, I am no doctor, nor do I play one on blogspot (ha ha).

I don't know a lot on prostate cancer but I decided that I will take a look.

As you know, the prostate is a gland in males (I'm not sure about female??) that you can access via inserting ones fingers inside of the rectum. But I learned there are two ways to discern if someone has prostate cancer or not. The two types of tests are the prostate-specific antigen (PSA)  testing and the other test is called the digital rectal exam (DRE). The DRE is the one where the doc lubes up and pokes you in the butthole. It's not pleasant in the slightest, but it's something that you should ABSOLUTELY do. Unfortunately, neither of the tests can be 100% acccurate but such is life.

The average age to get one's prostate checked is, of course, 40. If you have not done this and you are past this age, get with your doctor or specialist. They will help you out. I mean it.

You can take steps to prevent getting prostate cancer to some degree. A healthy diet and an active lifestyle (even moderate activity will do) can help you. This goes with many things. Always check with your doctor first before you begin doing any lifestyle changes.

For more information about prostate cancer please visit:
http://www.cancer.org/cancer/prostatecancer/index
And for cancer in general visit:
http://www.cancer.org

Keep an eye on your junk people. You don't want to go through that mess.

Lots of Love,
-Harvest Hellion

SJP-- What I Love About Myself

Hey guys. Harvest here. Sorry for my unusually long break. I have been taking a bit of a mental health vacation again. You all know that I have a hard time getting to a point where I feel like I am in a good place.

I feel like this is a good time to go about talking about something more positive, so I found a very positive journal prompt that I could try.

 http:///prompts.submissiveguide.com/1171

The prompt is simple: List some things that you love about yourself.

So. I suppose I should make a small list.

  • I like the fact that I know how to sew.-- It is a handy skill and I can help a lot of people out with that skill, even if it's sewing on buttons or zippers and the like. I like the fact that I can make my own patterns if I choose to and make my own outfits. I want to improve my sewing skills, but I think I'm doing pretty well at the moment. But there is always room for improvement. I want to learn how to do quilts. I think I would have fun making them. I would make them as gifts for people and I bet I could find a way to make a kinky quilt!!
  • I like the fact that I can make people laugh. I know through my pain I can make people laugh and have a good time. I say my pain becuase it feel like that the things I have gone through in my life (which are mostly painful. I learn things the hard way after all) are what give my stories life.
  • I like the fact that I can make friends easy enough. I can start a conversation with just about anyone. It's a great feeling. I like learning new languages so I can make friends in other languages as well. I've kind of dabbled in japanese, french, german, russian, spanish, and sign language. Of the list of languages, I only understand spanish and sign language well enough.
  • I like that I know how to care for and train animals well enough. I grew up breeding AKC registered cocker spaniels so I know quite a bit about birthing puppies and also kittens (they're pretty similar). It's something that I enjoy doing because playing with puppies and kittens could be one of the greatest joys on the face of the Earth.
  • I like that I can do some belly dance moves and pass some of my information and fun along to other people. Belly dancing brings me great joy and freedom. I feel alive when I dance. I suppose this goes for any dance I know though because I really love the fact that I can dance like a crazy person.
  • I like that I have a blog that people actually read. My readers (you!) are important to me. I care for all of you and want to show you my life.
  • I love that I have a great support network that I can rely on. I don't know if that is something that I would say I like about myself, but I kind of do.
  • And now: I like that I am FINALLY starting to follow my dreams.

I mean, that's kind of a lot really when you think about it. I can't wait to tell everyone what I am doing for following my dreams finally. I may have to make a special post just to tell you all about what I'm doing and if you think you can help me along, please let me know once it's posted.

I needed this post because lately I feel very used. I feel like people aren't taking me seriously. I feel like no one is proud of anything I do and it makes me suffer internally. I don't know. Maybe I'm just a huge wy-bag ("whine bag").

Hopefully you will see me around some more. I'm going to try to keep up with things again and get back to doing TMI Tuesdays if they are still doing them and whatnot.


Lots of love,
-Harvest Hellion

Monday, March 14, 2016

TMI Tuesday-- 3/15/16

1. Have you ever been so loud having sex that housemates/neighbors commented or complained?
No. I actually don't make a lot of noise. I've been confused with fucking a corpse. O_o
2. Ever had kids or parents bust in on you in the middle of full on sex?
Yeeeeees. It was embarrassing but my dad has walked in on me while doing things.
3. Have you ever licked or sucked on someone else’s feet and/or toes? Was it your request or theirs?
Nope. Feet are kind of icky to me.
4. Describe your typical sexual romp:
It's pretty boring honestly... It's usually a LOT of foreplay because for some reason I can't get into the act properly.
a. You are playful and tame
somewhat tame but mostly playful.
b. You have introduced a few things like outfits and toys
Yes!!! I like all sorts of things like this. Batdaddy and I are way into costumes and toys.
c. You love trying new things and shocking your partner
I don't like to shock Batdaddy. I want him to be happy with what we do.
d. Keep it simple–missionary, lube, sleep.
Ech. At least I can do SOME things besides just this. Missionary can get boring. I like to switch it up a bit.
5. Speaking of lube–what is your favorite lube for sex and why?
I found some at a local sex shop called Unicorn Spit. It tastes like donuts. Period.
Bonus: What are you looking forward to this week?
Not much. I have a lot of work this week so I'll be able to get a lot of video watching done. But that's about all I will be doing. I think I might take up chain mail finally though.

What Makes You Tick?

Hi guys! Harvest here.

So for the past few days I have been getting involved in the local community. I've met with so many people lately it isn't even funny (well, it is to me, since I'm seriously introverted and playing at being extroverted. To me, the internet is the only place I can really be extroverted/myself properly). I've been meeting with subs, slaves, switches, pets, etc. with a class here that I am helping out with. I'm very proud to be helping out. It means a lot to me. I can't talk about it much but I can say that it is doing a very good thing helping the community out.

I've been wondering about what makes us become who we are. S-type-wise I mean. Like how is it that I became a pet. That I actually have somewhat an answer for. Yes, it did involve my childhood to some degree, but it's not a triggering sort of thing.

When I was young, my mother would encourage us to be whatever we wanted to be whenever we chose to do so (save for when my father was home. That's a story in and of itself). I always wanted to be more peculiar choices (a rabbit, a dinosaur, a doll, etc.). Somehow in my mind I have always wanted to be a cat. My mother would make my brother and I costumes with the things that we had. They were always really impressive. I remember dressing up as dalmations after we had seen the 101 Dalmations movie (it was always one of my brother's favorite movies).

I think it all kind of just stuck with me from there. I feel like it is good to be different; to achieve what you want in peculiar ways. You can become what you want through your garb or your attitude.

Sometimes I wonder how abuse would come into this. I was asked the other day if I thought that some people became pets because they were abused. This I cannot say for sure, but I think that there are some people/pets who choose this life becuase of this. They want the security behind that. They want what they know... And if abuse is all they know, then perhaps this is what they want (even if it's not good to be driven that way).

I think I'm going to research this further.
-Harvest Hellion

Thursday, March 10, 2016

Random Musical Interruption

 Here's a video for a song I find myself singing quite often:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z7rjcdRjqPs

It's "Big Butts" by the Ying Yang Twins.

Tell me that doesn't get stuck in your head.
-Harvest

Sunday, March 6, 2016

TMI Tuesday-- Confessional

1. Have you ever devoted an entire day to sex and sexual activity (with breaks for eating, etc)? Was it planned or spontaneous? Any kinky fun?
 Ha!!! Not at all. I don't have a lot of sex because of my conditions/issues but when I do it's great. Be jealous. o_o
2. Have you had sex simultaneously with two or more people in a private residence? Did you know them well or was it a setup casual encounter?
Nope. I'm pretty monogamous and "boring." I would love to experience kitten play/pet play with another person besides my Owner but I'm not sure he would agree. But that's non-sexual anyway.
3. Have you gone out in public wearing an anal plug or vibrator device?
No, but damn does that sound fun. I may have to steal your idea. :3
4. Have you ever fantasized about or practiced orgasm control/denial?
Hmm.... I've thought about it. I have very poor self-control though. I'm not sure I'd be able to go about it without freaking out completely.
5. Do you like being called dirty names during sex? What names get you off the best?
Oh no. No no no. That's actually a trigger for me. I can do dirty talk, but as soon as you fire off a name at me I start clenching furiously and freaking out.
 
Bonus: The confessional is open–confess anything you want (sexual or not).
I'm not sure what I should confess TO. I mean, I've done some crazy shit (believe that or not). I can usually top everyone's stories by confessing to having sex in places where one should never have sex (don't ask unless you REALLY wanna know).

The only thing I really want to add is that if you have sex, make sure it's SAFE sex. And by safe I mean condoms and whatnot. Especially if you're with someone you don't or barely know. I've learned this one the hard way, and it's not pleasant what comes afterwards.

Check Out My Etsy!

Hey guys! Harvest here!

Looks like I'm getting ready for Easter with a couple things in my Etsy shop. Right now I have three "bunny" collars/chokers that you guys can purchase. They are super fun and I make them by hand all by myself. I love to create things for people.

If you are interested in buying one, you can find my Etsy at:

https://www.etsy.com/shop/HarvestsCreations

I'd love if you had a look!

Also, if you're interested in getting a custom piece from me, you can email my Etsy account and I will work with you personally on the things that I like to offer.

I'm hoping to learn chainmaille soon so I can offer that as well. I just love creating things!

Love you guys,
-Harvest :3

Friday, March 4, 2016

Learning to Deal

Hi guys. Harvest here.

So I've been having some rather troublesome problems lately. I felt that talking them out in a blog post on here would be best therapy for me becuase I know that some of you may have some of the problems that I have and can send me messages or comment what you think about the situation.

I suffer from a variety of different issues with my lady parts. I have PCOS and vaginismus. Let me give you a little background on them.

PCOS is a relatively common issue. It stands for Poly Cystic Ovarian Syndrome. Basically that means that your parts have cysts in them that are not exactly pleasant to have there, and also they can pop up in large quantities. It's not exactly a fun situation to be in.

Vaginismus I still have issues describing. Basically what happens is either a mental or physical reason that causes an inability to insert anything into the vaginal area, usually resulting in extreme pain or discomfort (or both).

I know what you're thinking... "How can someone have sex like that?"

Well. I don't.

It has become such a painful thing that I really don't have sex at all anymore. My Owner is very understanding and I take care of Him in other ways to the best of my abilities. For our anniversary the other day, we thought we might try having sex again. Buuuuut.... once again my usual problems caused me to start screaming bloody murder from the pain and we had to stop.

This has really been getting to me. I don't feel like a regular person.

I went to the OB GYN (I'm female by birth, much to my dismay) and she told me that I was pretty much clenching furiously and that anything that touched me was freaking me out so bad I clenched up again. She told me that this is caused by a past trauma. She asked me if I had ever been abused. I admitted that I had been raped and molested.

I hate admitting that. It makes me feel weak and incompetant.

But, she said there are ways to work on this. I have to start going to a physical therapy session in the city an hour or so from me and I have to go and see my therapist about why I am still dealing with this problem and how I can get over it.

I am better than this. I can be me again someday. Just not now.

I will be doing some research into support groups for rape victims. Once I find something that I know is good, I will keep you all informed. But for now, I'm just going to go be depressed.

*sigh*

-Harvest Hellion

Monday, February 29, 2016

TMI Tuesday-- A Look Inside The Insanity

1. Tell us your top 3 flaws and shortcomings.
I suppose my top three flaws are my mental handicaps. Mostly my misophonia. I can't deal with people like a regular person because of it. I'm usually mentally slow because of my medication. And then there is the fact that I forget everything most of the time and/or block things out from my memory so much that I have holes where days are supposed to be. Blogging has helped me immensely in seeing what sort of things I have been doing each week. TMI Tuesday is really great about this. That's one of the reasons I participate in it.
2. Who do you look up to the most:
– Professionally? I don't really know. I tend to look up to other bloggers who are successful. I get insanely green about seeing blogs better than mine. I just want a nice blog, people. I want comments and fun. That's not such a bad thing.
– Sexually? I don't look up to anyone for this. Seriously. I wouldn't know what I'd be looking up to that person for.
3. How do you like to be comforted when you’re sad or upset?
I like to sleep. Seriously. I sleep to forget my day. Especially if I'm mad. If I'm mad, I don't want to deal with people so I sleep. I've done this all my life and because of this, I instantly get tired if I get sad/upset/mad/etc. It's kind of weirdly ingrained.
a. Give me a hug or acknowledge my situation and sit quietly with me.-- Sometimes I do this.
b. Talk through the situation give me advice or say uplifting things. --- This rarely happens.
c. Leave me alone, let me sulk and wallow in misery.-- Yeah that happens more often than not.
d. Work out, be active to distract myself and up the endorphin and dopamine.-- Not really.
4. Which parent do you identify with the most?
Unfortunately, my father. He and I are freakishly similar. Save for some facts about him. I am usually happier to be around people than he is, though.
Bonus: If you had to choose one thing you were most passionate about, what would it be and why?
Sewing!!!! I love to sew and it's a good way to spend your time. Creating things is so fun. I love to design things from the ground up. You know, draw it out, pattern it, fit it, cut it, stitch it, wear it. All that good stuff.

Wednesday, February 24, 2016

Collars for Kitties

Hi guys. Harvest here! I'm here to talk about collars.

Collars are important in the BDSM lifestyle AND in kitten play. You can wear a collar if you want to, you can wear a collar if your Owner/Top/Etc wants you to, and you don't have to wear a collar if you don't want to, or even if your Owner/Top/Etc doesn't want you to you don't have to. There are many variables. Collars are for everyone. There is not set rule that you have to do a certain thing to wear a collar, though it is said that a collar with a lock on it is said to be a way to indicate that you are owned and in a permanent BDSM relationship. This is not always true though.

I wear day collars. I have not quite earned the right to wear a permanent collar. I have considered it, but I just don't know how to bring it up to the Batdaddy. He is always very busy and I don't really have the time to really bring it up with him either since we are both kind of doing our own thing. I might bring it up with him in a while, maybe today. We like to talk in the car. I'm not sure why but we always seem to get more talking done in the car than anywhere else.
So what do you need to know about collars? There are many different things to know about collars!

Day collars are a very passive sort of collar. These are ones you can wear throughout the day and not have someone ask too many questions about. I wear nylon collars with ribbons on them as a day collar but there are many kittens/subs/bottoms/etc who would not wear such a thing throughout the day. A lot of s-types will wear chainmail, necklaces, or even just delicate metal collars to work as a day collar. Ribbon collars are very nice to wear as well. They are not as tough as a nylon collar, so you can't get yanked around by it if that's what you're into. It will be too delicate.

Consideration collars are a step towards a full collaring in a BDSM relationship. A consideration collar shows that you are under consideration (obviously) by a D-type in a BDSM relationship or relationship in some fashion. These are important, but are not necessary. If you choose, you can just keep wearing a day collar or you could even wear a permanent collar.

A permanent collar is one that is given to you (or bought for you, made for you, etc. as long as it is for you) that shows you are Owned or are an "official" s-type in a BDSM relationship with someone. This collar is an honor to wear. Probably the highest honor you can get in a BDSM relationship. These are not given to a s-type just frivolously. They are given when the D-type knows that you are theirs forever.

You can be de-collared. It is similar to a divorce. You should not be ashamed of being de-collared. It isn't the worst thing in the world, even if it feels like it. These things are difficult to decide upon and should not be a spur of the moment thing.

Everyone can wear a collar. But the meaning is intwined with what you, as a s-type, and your Owner, or whatever D-type you have, make it. Even if you don't have a D-type, you are free to wear a collar. You can do whatever you want. The meaning is up to you. My collar is a symbol of love of my Owner. He knows this and I know this.

You are you. Be proud of your collar. Be proud of what it means to you. Life is grand. Never be ashamed of who you are or what you do.

Meow!
-Harvest Hellion

Monday, February 22, 2016

TMI Tuesday-- Trust, Excitement, Sex, Marraige!

1. How many people do you really trust?
Not very many. I keep having people be complete dicks to me about everything. I can't say I could really count either. I do know that Batdaddy is someone that I trust. He is always there for me.
2. What are you excited for?
 I'm sort of excited for some of the conventions that are coming up. I'm a huge nerd and love to cosplay. We are going to a convention in June and I will (hopefully) finish my Princess Kakyuu (from Sailor Moon) cosplay in time for that.
3. Have you had sex today?
Ha! No. I haven't had sex in a while and my parts refuse to let me have sex. I wouldn't make a good sex slave for sure because it's pretty much impossible to have sex with me. I've got some doctor appointments lined up to see if that can be fixed.
4. When was the last time you talked to someone until you fell asleep? What relation are they to you?
Last night I suppose. I was talking to Batdaddy and He was getting really irritated that I wasn't sleeping because it was about four in the morning. We were at a party last night but I couldn't sleep. That happens to me a lot. I take medication to put me to sleep; enough to knock out a bull moose.
5. What is your opinion on sex before marriage?
Oh, I don't mind it at all. I have never been married before and I have had sex. So it would be safe to assume that I really don't care. I think it's stupid because you never know if you're "compatible" with the other person, and there are times in the relationship when sex is a good stress relief. If you don't know if you are compatible, then what's the point. I dunno. It just doesn't sound like it's a good idea to me.
Bonus: Does your present lover know any of your past lovers? How well?
Batdaddy knew my previous boyfriend. I know a couple of His. I'm actually friends with one of His past lovers, but she and I are going through a bit of a rough patch for reasons which I choose not to disclose in a blog (that would be in poor taste). I'm unsure what to think about that right now.

Friday, February 19, 2016

SJP---- Burnout and Depression

http://prompts.submissiveguide.com/412

Hi everyone! Harvest again. Today's Submissive Journal Prompt (SJP) is:

"Do you ever experience burnout? How do you handle it? Do you take measures to avoid it?"

I DO experience burnout. There are times when I can't really feel like I function properly. I have mental issues which cause me problems on top of this. I think they kind of compound the burnout in a way. Depression can become quite the problem if you don't take care of it as soon as you can. It runs in my family so I am used to the effects it can have on people.

As a teenager, I told myself if I made it to the age of 25 I would be happy. I was, at the time, very suicidal. I hated everything about my life. I felt like my friends would leave me at the drop of a hat. My boyfriends were never "really there" for me when I thought they should be (even though they actually were! I just didn't realize it at the time). I had done so many things to injure myself or try to kill myself or even just get attention. I wanted attention. Positive attention. I felt like I could never have enough. When I met my current boyfriend (and now Owner) I was 21. I didn't really have my life together and I drank a lot. I was a mess. He finally encouraged me to get help; something I advise to everyone who feels the way I did.

I hit 25 years old. It was the most magical day of my life. I felt like I was on top of the world. With new medication to regulate my moods, good friends, and a very supportive boyfriend (Owner!), I FINALLY had (HAVE!) things under control.

Finding help can be hard to do. And it can be hard to really admit you have a problem. You may not see it like everyone else. But everyone else may not even let you know you have that problem. They will play it off and pretend nothing is wrong and just talk behind your back. This is not always true.

But...

I will help you get some information on depression. You can read the articles and compare them and see if you have any of the symptoms or if you need to find a place for help. I am not a trained therapist or doctor and should not be used as one. But I can give you these links for you to continue your path with hope and encouragement to seek the help that you need and deserve.

Here is a site that talks about various treatments:
 http://www.healthline.com/health/depression/help-for-depression

WebMD (the usual doom and gloom place) has an article worth note:
http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/depresssion-support

Here is an article from the Mayo Clinic, which is a good read:
http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/depression/basics/definition/con-20032977

I have not used this website before but for grief it might help:
http://www.griefshare.org/

*DAILY STRENGTH!* A website with support groups for e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g (I use it, too!):
http://www.dailystrength.org/


Hopefully this will help you along your path. Don't let depression get to you! Every life is important!
-Harvest Hellion

Thursday, February 18, 2016

SJP---- Topping?

SJP----Topping?

http://prompts.submissiveguide.com/709


Hi everyone! It's time for another Submissive Journal Prompt!!! Today's prompt is:
"Have you ever been asked by your Owner to switch and play the top with another submissive?"

I have not!!! My Owner doesn't really feel like it's okay for me to really Top someone, unless it's a non-sexual kind of relationship. I have topped before. I topped a babygirl. The experience was kind of brutal and put me under a lot of stress. She was very cruel to me and actually mocked me at every chance she could. I'm not sure if she was trying to brat or what, but we clashed so much. I was happy just being her friend.

Since then, we don't speak. We've unfriended on fetlife and such. I see she is going to events and I do my best to avoid her. It's very rare we run into each other, so it's not really a big deal. We run in relatively separate circles. We'll wave and smile at each other if we see each other, but that's pretty much the extent.
I would like the chance to Top again. Maybe. I don't have a problem with it, especially if it was something that kind of filled the hole in my heart. I'm not sure why I have one. I suppose maybe all people get one at some point in their life. If you do, there are ways to fill it in a responsible manner.

Batdaddy and I have a very committed relationship and I would not want to jeapordize that. We love each other way too much. I don't know what I would do if something happened. Maybe He'll let me Top another babygirl later on, but right now.... We're just perfect.

So, what do you think? If you are a submissive, would you want to Top? If you are a Dominant, would you let your submissive Top? How about you switches, are you in a good enough relationship to let the other Top?

Just wondering.

-Harvest Hellion

Monday, February 15, 2016

TMI Tuesdays-- 2-16-16

1. In winter does your sexual appetite go on a fast?
I don't really have much of a sexual appetite to begin with. There are few things that turn me on, so people really have to work hard on it to get me started.
2. What do you do to kick-start your libido when in a sexual slump?
I can turn my libido on and off. I choose either to be turned on or no. I'm not sure if there are other people out there who are like me in that. If there are, I would love to hear from you! Feel free to shoot me a comment or a message!
3. What is your favorite type of foreplay (to receive)?
Biting. I LOVE biting.
4. Mutual masturbation–yes or no? What is your technique?
Hmm. I approve, but I've never done it, personally. Maybe Batdaddy and I should try it. X3
5. Do you give your lover massage? How often? How long?
Of course! I give him a massage any time he wants one. Sometimes I give him massages when he isn't expecting it to show him how much I appreciate him. They don't usually last very long because I have a thing with texture on my hands. If it's skin-on-skin then I can do it for longer than I can with skin-on-fabric
6. Do you give or receive more massage?
 I give more massages than I receive. I prefer it that way. If I NEED one, then I ask. If I'm good, I receive.


Bonus: If a clone was made of you, would you have sex with it? What would you do first?
That's a good question. I think I probably would. I know what I like so it would be cool to get exactly what I want. At least I hope it knows what I know. Although this would probably end not in sex but in the two of us eating pizza together while we watch horror movies all day.

Have a great Tuesday everyone!
-Harvest Hellion

Sunday, February 14, 2016

Happy Anniversary, BatDaddy!

Happy Seventh Year Anniversary to my BatDaddy!!! May we have many exciting years to come, and a love to last several lifetimes.

Also, Happy Valentine's Day to everyone else. Sorry it's so late in the day that I"m saying it.

Friday, February 12, 2016

A Gift From Me To You

Hello all! Harvest here. It's good to see you again!

I have been reading a book lately and it has me thinking (which isn't always a good thing so bear with me.) I read a lot of books but this one was recommended by one of the sites that I like to frequent about submissive information. The website that I am referring to is called Submissive Guide. I am a member of the journal prompts that they have there, and that is why I have so many things on SJP (submissive journal prompts) that go along with it. You can find Submissive Guide at http://www.submissiveguide.com I really suggest looking into it for new submissives or ones trying to expand their knowledge.

So I have been going around and asking various submissives/slaves/submissive switches/bottoms/etc about what it means when people say that Submission is a gift. I have seen two meanings: 1- Submission is a gift/talent that a person can have. (and) 2- Submission is a gift to be given to a dominant/top/etc. We got into some seriously deep conversations about what each of these things meant and if it were true about dominant traits being given like a gift.

A lot of submissives ask themselves "Is my submission a gift? Is it natural for me to be this way?" I think the answer for this is yes AND no. I haven't really polled that many submissives but in a way we are all gifted with the ability to be submissive; we are drawn to it, as our dominants are drawn to dominancy. And I would also say no because there are some of us who want to LEARN to be submissive. That it is not the natural way that that person has known their whole life. I think maybe this would apply to switches switching back and forth with each other much rather than someone who is purely submissive or someone who is purely dominant. I don't know much about switches, but I am learning so bear with me on this. I have to wonder if they are not just doubly gifted.

Now, the second part of this equation is that submission is a gift to be given to a D-type (dominant type, usually capitalized to show power in places). The s-type (submissive type, usually not capitalized to show the subservience in various places) will give the mind, body, and soul to the D-type. There are times when not everything is given. Some s-types will serve purely with their body, where there are some who submit or "gift" purely mentally or with their soul. There are also times when these things can be mixed up and given together or in pairs/etc. This theory was brought to my attention by one of my good friends in the lifestyle, a switch who bottoms quite a bit. She knows from both ends of the spectrum what it is like to "give the gift," not just of Submission, but of Dominance.

It was said in our conversation that a similar act could be said of dominance. Dominance can be given as a gift. It can be given mind, body, and soul, just like submission. This is important to think about because we are equal, not matter how the pairing works. Submissives gift dominants submission and dominants gift submissives dominance. It is an equivalant exchange.

I am not sure how this would work in a poly family's dynamic. I will have to do some more research on that to have a better understanding. From what I have seen there is usually a core pair but I don't really know so I can't say. Anyway, back to the topic at hand.

You will find that a large group of submissives views submission as a gift. It is often argued about in various forums because it does not seem fair for it to be considered a gift. With a gift, you have to give it to someone you trust. Would you give something to someone who you didn't even know or know something about? To give a gift blindly is a shame, as you never know if they really wanted it in the first place or not. Someone would not know how to properly handle your gift, so this is yet another example as to why the gift of submission should be given to the right person(s).

I am not always the best at being submissive, and I will say that freely. I am always looking to improve so that the gifts I do have to give are better each time. Right now I am learning how to keep after my messes so that I don't leave art supplies everywhere so that my Owner might trip on them (It's a really bad habit. I leave everything I need in one spot and collect it there until it just piles up and it's just really bad).

So, as a bit of homework, I want you all to go over your submissive (or dominant) nature. I want you to see if you feel that it is a gift for you to give and if you are giving it properly to the proper person or if you have the proper person in mind. You should evaluate the fact that you have a gift or a talent for submission (or dominance). If you don't feel sure, do not fret. There is much to be read and talked about.

If you feel like I should go over something a little more thoroughly in another article or something, feel free to shoot me a comment or an email and I will get back to you as soon as I can. I want everyone to be educated!

And don't forget to check out Submissive Guide or their partner site, Dominant Guide!
-Harvest Hellion

Tuesday, February 9, 2016

TMI Tuesday- Valentine's Day!!!

1. List 3 benefits of living with your significant other.
-Having someone to hand you toilet paper when you're out
-Having someone to cook if you don't feel like it
-Having someone to tuck you in at night (or look for aliens, if you're paranoid like I am)

2. Have you ever reunited with a past lover and begun a relationship? Was the latest relationship as friends or lovers?
I tried to rekindle a relationship and the guy gave me a flower for valentine's day, that he got from a girl. The relationship I'm in now started as friends and just kind of blossomed. It's perfect.
3. Do you think someone is more sexy if they regularly read books or work out regularly at a gym?
I think it's more sexy to read books. You can work out if you want to (I don't always work out, so why should you?) but it's not necessary.
4. How likely do you think it is that your marriage will end in divorce?
I'm not married but we're too stubborn to divorce. We both love each other to the moon and back so it's not that big of a deal.
5. Who has more power in your love or romantic relationship–you or your partner?
Oh, he does. Definitely. But I like it that way. I'd say that sometimes I have power, but it's not all the time. It's mostly on him. I prefer it that way.
Bonus: Describe the best Valentine’s Day you’ve ever had.
The best valentine's day I've had is when Bat-Daddy and I first were about to get together. We went and saw Friday the 13th together in the theatre and it was so romantic. Nothing says lovin' like serial killers. At least for our twisted little brains.

Share your TMI with me! What's your best Valentine's Day memory?
-Harvest Hellion

Monday, February 8, 2016

SJP-- Domestics



SJP—Domestics!


Hello all! It’s time for another journal prompt! Today’s journal prompt is:
“Do you enjoy domestic chores? Which ones do you like more than others?”

So, to answer the question, yes I do enjoy domestic chores, at least to a degree. I have a hard time loading laundry into and out of the machines, but I like to fold the laundry. Especially when it’s warm and I can snuggle up in it. It takes me several trips to get laundry from one room to the other, depending on how large of a load the laundry is. I try to do laundry pretty frequently to keep up with the demand (and don’t you know it’s always in demand!?).

Dishes are one of those things that I have to do by hand. I have never really had dishwashers, and even when I have had the pleasure of having a dishwasher I still washed a lot of the dishes by hand. There are just some things that you have to do on your own. You know, to cut the ick and all that. I really like using bleach with my dishwashing, but I wear dark clothes most of the time, so I have to change clothes just to do the dishes. I do the dishes when I go to other people’s houses, too. I don’t know why. I just start working on them and then I clean up the mess. Just a bad habit.

Let me think. There are many chores around the house to do. I mop sometimes, and there’s always cleaning the toilet. Those things get so dirty. I don’t even want to think about that one, it’s the worst. Cleaning the toilet is definitely not one of my favorite chores. I think I actually hate that one.

Cleaning out the computers is a good monthly chore, though we have to do them biweekly sometimes because we have two cats that shed all the time (anise is very fluffy and cotton puff is just a puff ball). We use isopropyl alcohol on cotton swabs to get in between some of the tight cracks in the computer and clean them in a detailed manner. It pays to at least use canned air on the computer. I have even taken apart keyboards to get food crumbs out of them because both Owner and myself eat at our computers (a bad habit, I know, but when you do most of your work at the computer it kind of becomes a hard habit to break).

Dusting is something that I do not like to do. I am actually allergic to dust and have to use an inhaler to be safe anywhere around dust. I do like to use the dust mitts that gather the dust and hold it that I can wash off instead of the kind that just wipes the dust off into the air and just kind of scoots it around. I also use magic eraser pads to get the tough grime up. Those are cool because they kind of disappear as you use them.

Washing windows is a chore that is also difficult to do with a bad back like mine. I find that I can wash windows that are at my level but have to do the windows at lower levels by sitting in a chair or something. I also have to get the higher level windows by using a stepstool or ladder. But I think these are typical of most people.

Something that I have found that helps in my cleaning the house and whatnot, is a list. I make a list of everything that needs to get done and I check things off as I go. This doesn’t have to be anything that is very in depth. In fact, you can just write vague things down and as long as you know what those vague things are, you can do them. “Do delicate laundry,” can easily be replaced with “do laundry.” At least with the second option you aren’t particularly restricted. Now there are some times when you want a very strict list and that is if something is going on and you need to be sure that you get those certain things done.

Today is a vague day for me on my cleaning list. I just need to pick up the bedroom area and make sure that it is able to be walked through. Our bedroom is basically our living area as well due to our living conditions, so it is important for me to keep this cleaned and spotless.

Another thing that has helped me keep our home cleaned is Flylady. You can find her helpful website http://www.flylady.net/. It has a bunch of different things you can do each day that will help you feel like you are (and actually) accomplish more things each day. I think that the thing that has helped me most about it is to actually get up and get dressed and prepared for the day. If I don’t do this I tend to have a really sluggish and slow day, so I try to get dressed to attack the day.

What are some of the things that you like to do to help clean your home? Do you do domestic service for your Top/Dominant/etc.? Are you required to do anything each day?

I’ll see you tomorrow for TMI Tuesday!
-Harvest Hellion